I got posted on the door on Saturday. I've worked the door a lot so it was no big deal. When I tell guys that I work Security at clubs they think it's fun. They think: he's a Bouncer so he gets paid to 1. Beat up guys and 2. Pick up "chicks". They're wrong. That might be the way some "Bouncers" work, but not me. This is what I mean:
- Beat up guys-It's not my job to "beat up" guys. My job is to protect the staff and patrons at the club. So, it's my job to prevent and break up fights, not start or escelate fights. Yes, I do have to get "physical" sometimes but I still only use the neccesary force to get the job done. I very rarely have had to throw blows while doing Security. Why? Because A:"An ounce of Prevention is worth a pound of Cure". In other words, if you are aware of a potential problem before it escalates and you deescalate the situation and seperate the parties involved you won't have to deal with a full-blown brawl. B: Your mind and your mouth are your best tools in a confrontation. If you talk to people in a respectful, confident manner they are more likely to cooperate. C: When it comes to removing troublemakers from a club, if you get in trapping range (where most people aren't experienced or skilled) and keep them off-balance (by keeping them moving towards the exit) you probably won't have to exchange blows.
- Pick up "chicks"-I'm not at the club to "get laid". P.R. (Public Relations) is part of my job so I don't mind a little bit of converstion/firting. However, girls can become a distraction if you allow them to be. If I get distracted someone could get hurt. I like ladies as much as the next guy, but I really don't think I'm going to find "Mrs. Right" in a club. Why? Because A: Clubs are more or less meat markets (places where people go to "get laid"). So, most people there a looking to get drunk and find a warm body for a one-night stand. Am I saying that all the ladies that go to clubs are sluts? No. I'm just saying that the chances that a girl that I might be interested in getting to know is looking for a relationship (that lasts more than one night) are slim. B: A lot of the attention that a bouncer gets from ladies in a club isn't genuine because: I am a bouncer (this means that ladies think if they flirt with you, show some cleavage, or pretend to be "interested", you will let them skip the line, get in free, or let their under-age friends into the club; they also like the attention) and they are usually intoxicated/drunk (this means that they don't fully comprehend what is going on around them and they might not be as interested in you if they were sober). Call me a pesimist if you want to but I'm just being realistic.
This post might sound a bit pesimistic but I just wanted to explain how I feel about the club scene and people's perception of me and my job. I do enjoy my job (protecting people) and I am a friendly guy (believe it or not) or I wouldn't be doing it. If I seem unfriendly or short, please be patient, understand that I'm having a long night or I'm very focused, and try to give me a reason to smile. Thanks.